US, WASHINGTON (ORDO NEWS) — Someone once said that jealousy is a completely natural feeling and without it there would be no strong monogamous pairs. But in reality, we often encounter excessive jealousy, which spoils our lives and not only does not help strengthen relations, but rather destroys the union.
People are jealous for many reasons. Let’s analyze the main ones:
The person lacks the partner’s attention. The person has had a negative experience in past relationships. The person is not confident in himself. The person is afraid to lose the partner. The person has a very developed sense of ownership.
What to do about it?
Psychologists recommend accepting first of all the fact that good relationships are harmony and understanding, and if you are constantly jealous and begin to prohibit certain things to a person, these are not healthy relationships and you need to get rid of it.
At the moment when jealousy awakens in you, think about what emotions you feel at that time. Analyze them. And without scandals, share these emotions with your partner. For example: “I am offended that you communicate so often with your friend.” No need to blame the partner for this, you just need to tell him about how you feel at the same time.
The second one. Improve your self-esteem. Take a look at yourself and analyze your strengths. Praise yourself for them. Set a goal to develop yourself as a person, bring something new to your life. Think more about your business. Find a hobby.
The third. Ask your partner what he likes about you and more often demonstrate your positive qualities.
Fourth. You need to find a method that will get rid of negative emotions. It can be a sport or, for example, communication with friends.
Fifth. Learn to trust. Drop the suspicion that sits tightly in your head. Give your partner freedom, and you will see how your relationship improves.
If these tips do not help you, this is an occasion to contact a psychologist and, together with a specialist, correct an established pattern of behavior.
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